Thanks JOe, artie, artie was right that even after deleting JOeA from previous recipients ; JoeA not first anymore but still on the list now the note trick could solve that...
But note trick and putting period first, in reality.. not sure.. because I'm not analyzing usually in my 600 contacts at any giving point who could get an email by accident, as occurs rarely ... its just evolved over time. Hence even though I actually love the auto feature, I did want to test trying the app without it for awhile.
Alas not possible, as Apple has become the pest you often cannot control.
