Whether your desktop is connected to the internet via. WiFi or ethernet might make make a few seconds difference in transfer speed but not what you are reporting. Al I can suggest is on your desktop check Photos > Preferences > iCloud settings and System Preferences > iCloud > Options one more time. FWIW mine look like this.
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If we knew what it was we were doing, it wouldn't be called research, would it?
