My first-ever professionally published book, More Than Two, actually published today! Whew! It's a weird feeling. After all this time and work, it's finally a real thing that real people can actually get their hands on.

Man, this has been a long, strange trip. I started talking about writing it in 2003. In about 2006 or so, I put together a proposal and sent it out to a bunch of publishers and agents. A lot of them said the same thing: "we don't want a relationship how-to book, but if you redo it as a personal memoir, we'd love to publish it." I didn't want to do a memoir, so it got shelved until I started dating my girlfriend (and editor, and coauthor, and mastermind) Eve.

And what a process. We founded a publishing company, did a crowdfunding campaign, and retreated for six weeks to a remote log cabin deep in the woods in rural Washington to make it happen. And boy, did we have a lot to learn about the book publishing industry, which is archaic and hopelessly dysfunctional. I'm seriously considering writing a book about navigating all the rivers of bullsh*t it takes just to publish a book.

But now it's here! Our distributor is delivering it to bookstores and libraries, and it's shipping from Amazon and Powell's. Whew! In four days, Eve and I will be leaving to live in a conversion van for two months as we drive all over the country lecturing, talking, doing readings, giving workshops, and signing books.

Congratulations to both of you! I wish you well and maybe, just maybe, it will appear on the NY Times best seller list.

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AWESOME!!!!!! This just means that your NEXT book will be that much easier....

Congrats, and lots of luck in the next stages of your project!!!

I took a quick look and found Best Books for Polyamory, where yours is highly ranked and highly rated. (I've read "Stranger" more than once, and I'm mystified by its position on the list; I don't think it's completely irrelevant, but I also don't see it as being as relevant as its position implies.)

On Broadway, they say "Break a leg!" Is "Get a flat!" its touring equivalent?

What delightful news, congratulations!

As you travel about, please post the links to local media that interview you, publish excerpts, write reviews, etc.

Well, we have two more books in the pipe for next year: a memoir by me (ironically, the one the traditional publishers said they wanted, that I didn't want to do) and a book by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, a sociologist who studies non-traditional families. Her last book, The Polyamorists Next Door, was the results of a long-term longitudinal study f polyamorous families with children; her next book will be an anthology of stories about living in non-traditional families. Her last publisher treated her really badly, so now she's with us.

I'm not sure book publishing ever gets totally easy. In fact, the whole industry is so dysfunctional it seems like book publishing is difficult by design. But it will be easier, I reckon.

Your story is ever so slowly seeping through the cracks of mainstream journalism, reaching The Guardian today: Polyamorous in Portland: the city making open relationships easy. Congrats!

And you must be congratulated profusely!
So let it be written. So let it be done.